expel the ego

Monitor your egos and prides, they are not worth-it

Relationships are very tricky, one moment you are so in-love and it feels like nothing can ever come between you and your partner, the next moment everything is just misty, you do not even know your standing with the same person who was your whole world a day ago, now out of all this, the most painful and fearful is when you have been with someone forever, they have shown you the best love you could ever receive and you have loved them whole heartedly too, you two are so used to each-other, you know each-other like the palms of your hands, your relationship has escalated to a point where you are just as good as best friends, you are both aware of how much you mean to each-other and all of a sudden the relationship turns toxic. One feels the other is just no longer good enough, they feel like they deserve better because all of a sudden they feel neglected and as though the other is no longer as caring as they used to be. Every moment they bring it up the other feels the need to be defensive and arguments arise repeatedly, it gets to a point where all you do is fight, you start to hate each-other because you cannot be together due to circumstance. Fights escalate, emotions are getting drained, efforts to make things work disappear and everybody just stops trying. no one is interested in begging the other or reasoning because all that happens whenever they talk is that they just end up fighting, everyone feels they are right and so nobody wants to take responsibility for the state of the relationship at that time. Egos and pride are flying around at the expense of breaking hearts that just want to be together, minds continue to convince their owners that they are right and they do not need to be the one to reach out. Everyone is tired now, nobody ever says anything nice any-more, whenever you talk, everyone is just blaming everyone until one of you is fed up and you decide you need a break, the break is denied and both of you are just stuck in this situation where you cant just get over your egos, own up to your mistakes, apologise and get along. everyone is spiting everyone just so they could feel their importance in their lives. Alone you both cry yourselves to sleep at night because you both know you love each-other like crazy and you need to be together. The only thing that can heal you both is each-other but you still refuse to swallow the pride and get rid of the ego, you keep going, you are both stressed as hell and nothing seems to interest you any-more, you have no energy to do anything and you just don't feel like living cos the salt and spice of your lives are each-other and right now you just lacking the flavour. Because nobody is getting any reach out, you are now mad at each-other for not begging each-other, you constantly say things to hurt each-other and evoke some insecurities, this doesn't fix anything, instead it just makes things worse. One of you cannot take it any more, out of frustration they end the relationship, its not like they know what they are doing but they are just hoping this would push their partner to the extremes of realization, suddenly it hits a nerve, both of you are now aware of what is at stake, you wish you could move on but you cant because your hearts will not let you. You are having sleepless nights, constantly crying because now you have broken all the communication by ending things, maybe the fighting was better than not talking to the person you love at all. Eventually they call you and ask is it really worth-it? for a moment you are feeling liberated to know that they still care, maybe you just wanted them to show you how much they value what you share and if they are willing to fight for it. A chance is given to talk to each-other and when you eventually can talk, you are still at it, pointing fingers and shifting the blame back and forth, all you can do is make each-other cry and not even offer each-other the comfort to the pain you both inflicted on each-other. The pride and ego are still in control while you bleed so badly until you eventually both realise how stupid you are and how you have been both hurting yourselves. The words are cut off, no one is saying anything any-more because talking just messes up further, you get caught up in each-others eyes, you can feel the sparks creating inside, that love which was being suppressed for so long is now showing face, a magnetic pull towards each-other is felt, everyone is trying hard to avoid it but you just end up lip-locked, fireworks bursting inside of you, its as if you are drinking from the sweet waters after being stuck in a desert for days, tears rolling down both cheeks because of the realisation of belonging. Engulfed in each-others embrace you cry all the pain away, pride and ego lost without a trace, now you both know what you have for each-other is beyond your will. You are soul-mates and not even yourselves can separate the two of you. From that point on you become so inseparable because you realise you cant survive without each-other. Never allow your prides and egos come between you and your partner, it only hurts you in the end. If you fighting, do not wait to be called, pick up that phone and call your love and apologise for your wrongs, fix things before they fix the both of you.